Saturday, August 11, 2012

Raging hormones

Two of my granddaughters just turned 14
and I have lots in common with them!
 They are maturing physically.
 So am I,  but  in different ways. Changing.....,yeah, me too!
 While I'm trying to keep young,
they are trying so hard to be older!
 They're searching for answers and meaning in life.
 I've found it and and am trying to find important ways
 to share it and make a difference in their lives.
   While I struggle with hot flashes, new wrinkles and joint pain,
 they fret over pimples,cramps, and what their friends think of them.
I know they need me more than ever now,
 as sometimes  their parents can't reach them,
 and I have a special kind of rapport with them,
 because they are not trying to seperate from their grandma
 and of course, I think the sun rises and sets on them,
and I know they're absolutely perfect, while their folks
are feeling the perfectly normal feelings
 of being at odds with them half of the time.
 My grandmothers were my strongest allies,
 when I was a teenager trying to find myself
 and break away from my parents, so I understand. 

I praised her for singing in the middle school concert.
You have to support the interests that are positive. 

Raging hormones in teens cause ups and downs.  There are hard decisions about sex, drugs, wanting independence and more freedom. Peer pressure and  heavy demands of career planning and school are just some of the stresses on kids.  But old grandma remembers, knows this is all part of life,  has learned alot about looking at the bright side and perseverance and all that good stuff, and is ready and willing to listen and encourage. I tell them always do your best and trust God and everything will be all right.  And always follow your dreams, you can do anything you put your mind to, believe in yourself.   I try to make them confident and hopeful.  I believe with self-esteem and hopes and dreams, they will behave better. But I know these teen years are sometimes turbulent.
Here are some ways I think Grandmoms can help:
  • Listen without judgement 
  • Remember the advantage you have, they trust you.  You can gain their confidence and influence them.
  • Relate to them by telling your story.
  • Tell them your philosophy-what worked and what didn't.
  • Explain why doing well in school is so important to their future.
  • Support their positive interests
  • Convince them they have a great future.
  • Support their parents
  • Have fun adventures together.
  • Keep positive, problem-solving approach.
  • Develope rituals and social values
  • Bring their heritage to life
  • Find and share information about careers, jobs, schools, resources
  • Don't wait for them to come to you. Reach out and be there. 
  • When you can't see them, call, text, comment on FB, send cards! 

My twin nieces and granddaughter hanging out at the park

 Amber was such a good sport,
modeling some vintage fashions
for me for my Etsy shop.
  They were fifties, and eighties clothing,
 and it was a very warm day,
 but we had a fun photo shoot!

She's a lovely model,
 and this was a great opportunity
to praise her, and talk about poise,
posture, and grace.
I also shared about my business
and taught her about vintage styles
which lead to stories about when
 I was her age.

Amber models a sixties gown with grace.

Love to see those smiles!

Abby just finished softball season on a championship team!

These amazing girls were born just  3 days apart!
Happy Birthday,Abby and Amber!
 God bless you and guide you
as you delight in your youth!

Your belief in your grandchild fosters her belief  in herself.

I'm doing my best to make a difference!
I found some great resources!, has two great articles.
8 Things Teens Won't Tell You
Having the Talk-Teens &Sex

and a good book, The Essential Grandparent, by Dr. Lillian Carson
I hope you enjoy your exciting role of grandmother as much as I do!!
Love, Grandma Linda


Debbiedoo's said...

I can only for your sense of humor and two for the girlie thing. Thanks for sharing. Have fun.

Shannon said...

What lucky girls to have a grandma like you! Certainly you are a big part of their lives and very important. Great job! Found you through Debbiedoo's!

Kathy Moody said...

What a great post!! You're an awesome grandma. Your newest follower from the Newbie party. :)

Linda Young said...

Thank you, Debbie, You are so sweet and so helpful to me! I love your parties and all your super ideas for your home and crafts. Your sister's wedding was wonderful! You looked so pretty, your boys looked so handsome, and the bride was just beautiful! What a lovely time you all had!
Her bouquet of vintage brooches was incredible! Hugs!

Linda Young said...

Thank you, you are a dear! Glad you found me, now I'm checking out your blog! Blessings!

Linda Young said...

Thank you! I love being a grandma so much! Glad you are following, and I'm coming to visit you too!

Manuela@A Cultivated Nest said...

Grandmothers really do have a special relationship with their grandkids!

Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment on my Home Sweet Frugal Home post. So many people have emailed me saying that they found the tips in the comments very very helpful. So thanks for joining in on the conversation!

Lisa@GrandmasBriefs said...

What a beautiful post for two beautiful girls. This right here is key: "I tell them always do your best and trust God and everything will be all right." You are clearly their biggest ally. Happy birthday to them and kudos to you for being there!

Thank you for linking this thought-provoking post to the GRAND Social! Great to see you there.

Vicki Valenta said...

Great post and beautiful girls. I love that sixties gown.

Grandma Kc said...

Just stopping by from the GRAND Social. Great post and I don't think you can ever start to early practicing all of those things. We have made it a point to be at every honor roll presentation and anything else we can attend the reaffirms how amazing she is, what a success she can be and how much WE believe in her!

Fit and Healthy Baby Boomers said...

Just came across your blog, and as a new grandma , ( 9 month of boy) I enjoyed your tips on how to stay in tune with the kids. Thanks Sharon